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Taking Time to Process Pain is Functionally Forwarding
You have a vision. You have a wealth of goals. You have worked on yourself to step into the faith that you can make these huge dreams turn into one collective reality.
You also, however, are human, so you get overwhelmed by the daunting amount of work it takes to bring your lists to fruition. You crave immediacy, and you know that life is ultimately short, and there is so much you want to do. And maybe most importantly, you hate the thought of stagnation. Your growth mindset makes it so that any inner sense that you are not moving forward can be a crushing notion.
I'm here, checking in, to hopefully provide some relief and reassurance on that front. Life is going to life, and that means the path to your horizon will never always be linear. Not only do you need to afford yourself grace -- as your best effort is going to fluctuate based on the natural fluidity of a day's/week's/month's/year's/etc's circumstances -- but you also need to solidify in your psyche an important distinction:
Stillness is not Stagnation.
Processing pain -- of loss, of missed opportunities, of change -- is part of life. Moreover, it is productive to your inner achiever's ultimate goal of catalyzing alignment of your highest hopes and intentions. Your soul's artistic truth requires taking time with down days, with hard emotions, with struggle, in order to stay in step with your own most authentic and optimal rendering.
Trust the process (trust YOUR process, as it is different than anyone else's),and have faith in the ultimate realization of your vision: even -- or maybe, especially -- when your workflow is met with emotional bumps in the road.
Be motivated by love and those who love you; not to prove wrong doubters/someone who hurt you
In a world so often dominated by the appeal of being proven "right" or victorious, it is tempting to be driven by the desire to be led by our ego's need for vindication. We often so desperately want to show the world that we were somehow always "stronger" and "above" a force that underestimated, doubted, or simply hurt us in the past. Your worth, your art, and your vision -- however -- transcend the ego's need to assert it was always "better" than that injurious factor. If we can be moved first and foremost by love, our inner truth will more readily and authentically emerge, and we will find an inner peace that steadily emboldens us to achieve optimal performance in a way that is sustainable; as opposed to a negative motivator that has temporary impact and that teaches our nervous system to seek discord. Always remember that your reason "why," or your Impetus, matters.